So! I really want to share this *interesting* 🙂 article that I found the concerns women and men, and their roles in marriage.
Technically I don’t think the author of the article is a Catholic or a Christian so I’m not really blaming him for his … *interesting* 🙂 views. The problem I have is with women / men who ARE Christians who share this and believe it is truly how men should view and treat women. It shows a terrible example for men, and women as well, in how to view each other, and certainly goes against what the Catholic Church teaches about the equal and inherent dignity that both genders have.
Am I a feminist or something? :
I believe in what the Catholic Church teaches about both genders. Period.
(CCC 1700 The dignity of the human person is rooted in his creation in the image and likeness of God)
(CCC 369 Man and woman are both with one and the same dignity “in the image of God”. In their “being-man” and “being-woman”, they reflect the Creator’s wisdom and goodness.)
Alice von Hildebrand is actually the best example of my beliefs in the inherent dignity and duties of women as compared and contrasted to most beliefs of modern day feminists. (Read an interview with her here that explains quite a bit)
Here is a small excerpt: “Those who fell into the traps of feminism wanted to become like men in all things and sold their birthright for a mess of pottage. They became blind to the fact that men and women, though equal in ontological dignity, were made different by God’s choice: Male and female he made them. Different and complementary.
Each sex has its strengths; each sex has its weaknesses. According to God’s admirable plan, the husband is to help his wife overcome these weaknesses so that all the treasures of her femininity will come to full bloom, and vice versa.
How many men truly become “themselves” thanks to the love of their wives. How may wives are transformed by their husband’s strength and courage.”
Now, with that out of the way… lets get started 🙂
I found one of my favorite “Pro Traditional, Anti Feminist, Pro Family, Pro-Women in the Kitchen” groups sharing a certain article that, at first I thought was pretty cool.
The article promoted the whole “man is the head of the family” “marriage is for life” “you don’t want kids? don’t get married” and so on, but then it turned into something really… *interesting* 🙂
What was the article about?
Basically it was to tell men how to pick the right wife. It explained marriage as a lifelong commitment, to raise a family, and that divorce is not something you want to involve yourself in, ever.
But it went downhill pretty fast.
It was beginning to look a tad (dare I say it….) rigid as it continued down the article, but this was when it really hit me like a brick wall: (NOTE: gifs are mine… not his 🙂 )
“The top 12 rules for picking the right wife to maximize a happy life and minimize the chance of divorce…
1) She should be young.
The woman should 30 years of age MAXIMUM. 25 is even better and 20 is the best age.
A woman’s body does not age well. You want the most amount of years with your wife having a tight, young, firm body.
After 30 it goes downhill fast. At around the age of 31 a woman’s beauty really declines fast.
It’s a tradeoff, she gives you her good years and you put up with her in her bad years. Never take a woman already in her bad years.
Women do not age well. “Cougars”, older women that younger men find irresistible, are an invention of the movies. Single women over the age of 30 have wasted all their pretty years having a lot of random sex and now they want to find a sucker who will take care of them without having to give him any of her good years. Don’t be that sucker.
A young body is especially important for bearing children. Old women cannot have and don’t have healthy children. At 30 years of age a woman is already 15 years past her child-bearing prime.
But I like talking to smart women. 20 year olds are stupid.
Her IQ won’t grow much with age. A dumb 20 year old is a dumb 30 year old. The difference is that the 30 year old dumb woman is a lot more bitter and has a whole lot less to offer.”
2) She has to come from an intact family with original mother and father.
No step-mommies and step-daddies. Children from single mommy homes cannot be healthy. A mother simply cannot raise healthy children alone or with step-daddies. You want an emotionally healthy wife. Women who grew up with divorce have too much baggage, use sluttery as a way to get attention from daddy, and will not know how to act in a proper family setting.
5) She must be image conscious.
A woman who gets pig-fat after marriage is a disgrace to herself and her family.
She must be aware of her image and keep her body trim for you. Women will always gain a few pounds after marriage, but there is a difference between a few pounds and one hundred pounds. Take a look at all the women in her family, if they are all pig-fat it’s a good idea to walk away as fast as you can. You will have to see your wife daily, you don’t want to be thinking about skinning some bacon off of her back to cook breakfast.
7) She must be a “good” girl.
She cannot be a drinker or a smoker or have any tattoos. She cannot have a party girl past, a sordid past, and she cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking. You cannot turn a whore into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce.
Are you saying all party girls, smokers and drinkers are sluts?
The fewer sexual partners your wife has had, the better. The ideal wife should be a virgin. Remember: The more sexual partners she has had the more likely you are to be divorced in about 6 years and lose most of your money, possessions, and your children.
If you think she needs help or that you are helping her and she is changing then you are being foolish and you are being played. It’s going to end badly for you when you get hitched to a woman like this.
Always pick a good girl. That means a virgin (or close), family oriented, pleasant, eager to help, a smiler, and patient.
9) She should change herself for you.
When a woman is in love she will change herself to please and conform toyou. Her new favorite food will become steak and eggs, she will enjoy watching all six Rocky movies with you, and she will do things to please you she has never done or liked before.
I don’t want a woman who flip-flops!
A woman who doesn’t flip-flop is a woman who does not respect you.
Women are not men and should not be held to the standards of men. A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a sissy. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love. She should not be degraded for that because that’s what ‘keepers’ do.
I can’t even…